Best Husband Ever! : The Gift of Time

The Eternal Gift of Time

Amid the noise of a crowded metro, one truth stilled me: whenever someone does something for you—cooking a meal, washing your clothes, folding the laundry and packing your food—it is never just a simple, mundane act. It is the literal saving of your time, and therefore, a gift of your life back to you. Every such act creates space for you to live differently, to do something else, to breathe. When that gift is given not out of obligation but out of love, it ceases to be ordinary. It becomes the most profound offering one human can make to another. My wife, in her quiet, steadfast way, gives me this gift every single day. And I, inspired by her, do my best to give her time back.

A Heart of Logic and Tenderness

She is a paradox—a mind grounded in logic, yet wrapped in a tenderness so deep she doesn’t even see it herself. I’ll never forget a simple walk with our golden retriever puppy. He tugged at the leash, chasing something risky, and her worry made her pull too tight. When he later vomited, she blamed herself and wept—not in the moment of panic, but only after ensuring he was safe. That’s her essence: duty first, emotions second.

She teases me for being the “sensitive” one, and maybe I wear my heart on my sleeve. But beneath her calm exterior flows a river of care and depth I can only aspire to match.

The Silent Strength That Inspires

Her strength is a quiet force, unyielding even in the face of her own struggles—illness, fatigue, or the weight of life’s demands. She never pauses her care for me or our daughter.

When I battled a month-long fever after a grueling dental procedure, I still walked our pup, vacuumed, cleaned the house, ran errands, and drove our daughter to her classes. Why? Because my wife had already shown me what it means to keep going.

She is the standard I strive for—the caregiver who never falters, the worker who gives her all in every moment. And that strength became the spark that changed my life forever.

The First Spark of Forever

I often say, half-joking but wholly sincere, that I stopped searching for the woman of my life the moment I met her. That was her first gift of time to me—freeing me from the endless quest for love.

What began as attraction deepened into something sacred when I saw her attention to life’s smallest details. We finish each other’s sentences, hum the same tunes, and often, before I can ask her to do something, she’s already done it. She leads me in this dance of love, often without realizing it.

She sees the ordinary in me as extraordinary. When her uncle passed away, I sensed her need to be with her family in India and offered to book her tickets without hesitation. Later, I overheard her sharing that gesture with her mother, sister, and cousin, her voice filled with gratitude. It humbled me.

Over time, she has become my mirror—reflecting the best in me, revealing what I must cherish, and gently showing me where I can grow.

The Value of Time and Love

She works tirelessly at her job, yet still finds ways to remind me of the value of my own time. I once lived with a “Coolie” mindset—freely giving my hours without thought of their worth. There’s beauty in that generosity, but also a risk in undervaluing life’s most precious currency.

My wife taught me that time is sacred, and through her, I’ve learned to cherish it.

Money, too, is just stored time—a way to exchange our efforts, our lives. Its misuse by some doesn’t diminish its power to connect us. My wife’s care reminds me to use both time and resources with intention, to honor the life they represent.

The Mug That Sparked Reflection

In the midst of these thoughts, I stumbled across a simple mug online: “Best Husband Ever.” It was unused, a steal at $10. But to me, it wasn’t just a mug—it was a mirror, daring me to live up to its promise.

It reminded me of the men in my family, each generation striving to be better partners, better humans. And it challenged me to ask: How can I refine my conduct? How can I live up to the title of “best husband” for this incredible woman who walks beside me?

Love isn’t just in grand gestures; it’s in the quiet labors, the unseen sacrifices, the tender moments that go unnoticed.

Restlessness Without Fear: The Fire That Shapes Greatness

I first came to understand the meaning of restlessness from Babuji of Heartfulness – Sahaj Marg, who, in my opinion, revolutionized spirituality after Vivekananda. He spoke of a restlessness that is often misunderstood. It is not the jittery excitement of craving or desire, nor the nervous agitation of impatience. It is something deeper—an intensity of purpose, a fire that refuses to let the soul remain stagnant until the highest ideal is reached.

When I understood this, I recognized the same quality everywhere. In history, in spirituality, in cinema, in sport—the people who rise above their circumstances are often those who cannot sit still when a goal calls them forward.

I also saw this truth in my own life. In a training session, my team once reflected that my essence is deep intensity. They were right. Whenever I withdraw from it, I slump; negativity clogs my movement. But when I align it with purpose, I become unstoppable, like a train running full steam toward vision. For this, I owe gratitude to the Heartfulness Masters, and especially Babuji, who showed me that intensity is not dangerous when it is freed from fear.

Let us see how this same energy marked the lives of four extraordinary figures: Theodore Roosevelt, Swami Vivekananda, Rajinikanth, and Serena Williams.

Theodore Roosevelt: The Man in the Arena

Roosevelt began life frail, asthmatic, and often bedridden. Most expected him to fade quietly. Instead, he resolved: “I will make my body.” Through exercise, boxing, and sheer will, he transformed fragility into vigor.

Then came tragedy—his wife and mother died on the same day in 1884. Shattered, he withdrew to the Dakota Badlands. There, amidst harsh ranching life, he rebuilt his inner strength.

As President, this same force drove him to challenge corruption, monopolies, and ecological destruction. He captured the essence of purposeful struggle in his famous words:

“It is not the critic who counts… The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood… who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”

Roosevelt’s life shows how intensity of purpose can turn weakness into strength and grief into action.

Swami Vivekananda: The Voice That Awakened a Nation

Narendranath Datta’s search for truth was never calm—it was fierce, filled with questions and challenges. Meeting Ramakrishna gave direction to that fire, but after his master’s death, he wandered India barefoot, penniless, absorbing the suffering of its people.

At one point, he reached America nearly defeated. With no money and no invitation, he almost abandoned his mission. Yet his inner drive would not let him stop. At the Parliament of Religions in Chicago, his opening words—“Sisters and brothers of America”—ignited an audience and carried India’s spiritual voice to the world.

He once gave the formula for such purpose:

“Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life—think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea. This is the way to success.”

Vivekananda’s life shows how unwavering focus transforms an individual into a national awakener.

Rajinikanth: The Spirit of Cinema

Born Shivaji Rao Gaekwad, Rajinikanth worked as a bus conductor in Bangalore. His natural flair for drama revealed a creative fire that could not remain hidden. At the Madras Film Institute, he was raw, unconventional, even awkward. Critics said he lacked the grace of a hero.

But what others dismissed as flaws became his trademarks—the cigarette flip, the swagger, the offbeat rhythm of his delivery. He turned doubt into charisma, and charisma into legend.

Even at the peak of fame, he retreats to the Himalayas, seeking renewal. His story shows how the same inner force that propels a man to superstardom also drives him toward spiritual depth.

Serena Williams: Strength Reborn

On the cracked courts of Compton, Serena Williams trained with her sister Venus, under the demanding eye of their father. Her power and determination set her apart from the beginning.

In 2011, a pulmonary embolism nearly ended her life. Many thought her career was finished. Instead, she returned with greater force, capturing ten more Grand Slam titles.

Her own words describe the philosophy behind her rise:

“Luck has nothing to do with it, because I have spent many, many hours, countless hours, on the court working for my one moment in time.”

Serena shows how intensity of purpose transforms near-death into renewed greatness.

The Fire That Unites Them

Roosevelt, Vivekananda, Rajinikanth, Serena—different worlds, different paths. Yet each carried the same quality: a drive that refused to let them settle. For one it was rugged will, for another spiritual hunger, for another creative daring, and for another athletic determination.

The lesson is clear: greatness does not arise from comfort. It comes from an energy that is steady, fearless, and purposeful.

And in my own journey, I’ve learned the same. When fear clouds my intensity, I falter. When I free it, I move with unstoppable clarity. This is the gift Babuji left me: not to suppress the fire, but to let it blaze clean—an intensity of purpose that carries us to our highest ideal.

More than a Super Star

✨ Morality and spirituality go hand in hand. But morality — living in a way that honors all life, all people, and all things — is even greater than spirituality. ✨

When a man who once thought he could live as he pleased, yet carried boundless enthusiasm, garners the love of millions… and then chooses to reform, to stand for truth, and to lead simply by being authentic — that man deserves our support.

Today, a large section of atheistic Tamil media inspired hatred towards God-believers & Spirituality is at its peak, evident from the 'so called' reviewers spewing hate on Rajinikanth's movie - Coolie. But let’s be clear:

👉 Wanting another to fall is the greatest sin.

👉 Hate always loses to love.

👉 The more hate grows, the stronger love becomes.

I don’t enjoy excessive violence in films, and honestly, I was indifferent about whether I would watch Coolie for this reason.

But when I hear the naysayers, I feel compelled to support — not for the violence, but for what Rajinikanth stands for in life:

🔸 Authenticity

🔸 Understanding his purpose

🔸 His dharma to producers, fans, and the people who love him

That spirit is bigger than cinema.

That spirit is leadership.

And that spirit is why he is More Than a Superstar.

#Coolie #Rajinikanth Also read -> https://www.citizenkk.com/post/who-are-you-is-magnetic-rajinikanth